A Wife, A Gift!

 "Regardless of what kind of person you have been in the past, with instructions from God's word, you can become a heavenly- gift bride."
                                                                  Debi Pearl

      Since the beginning of creation, God had a purpose for women. An evident plan for our creation. A plan that is opposed by society, our sinful nature and our unforgotten past. 

     "And the Lord God said, it is not good for man to be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Genesis 2:18

    A help meet. Not a selfish-bitter-nagging-complaining-domineering-criticizer. Dictionary.com defines helper as " A person or thing that helps or gives assistance, support, etc." God created women to be of assistance, service and support to our husband's. Why is it that we  tend to do the complete opposite? instead, " Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." Genesis 3:16. When we are not satisfied in God, our desire will not be for His will, instead we will want to dictate, control and manipulate our husband's, which is the opposite of a help meet.

    It wasn't until about four months before I married my amazing husband that I started to learn what it meant to be a help meet. It was a foreign language to me. Quinell (my husband) and I completed a premarital class at North Coast Calvary Chapel prior to our marriage. During the class we were assigned a mentor couple who taught, challenged and helped prepare us for marriage.The Lord sent us the perfect couple. A beautiful godly couple who lived according to His Word. It was then that I began to learn what God wanted for my marriage, and what I am called to do as a wife. 

    I want to be a heavenly-gift bride! Despite my past of impurity and rebellion, I so desperately desire to be everything my husband wants and needs.  I want to encourage him, serve him, love him, follow him, respect him, and let him lead me. I never wanted this before I was married, all I thought about was myself and what I wanted. Don't get me wrong, I am not perfect and being a help meet is something I am constantly working out. I would be lying if I said I don't ever let my selfishness get the best of me, because at times, I do. I'd be deceiving you if I said, I've got being a wife down to a T, because I don't. BUT the  beauty of it all is that the Holy Spirit is molding my heart and desires to line-up with His will for my life, not mine! and to that I say HALLELUJAH! 

    It amazes me that when I respect my husband I respect God, when I submit to my husband I am submitting to God, when I reverence my husband, I am reverencing God, because this is what he calls wives to do! and to do it joyfully. I said it once and I will say it again, and i'm sure my husband will vouch for me (LOL); Daily, I make mistakes, but becoming a help meet is something that takes prayer, practice and faith.

"Wives submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." Colossians 3:18

"And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you.." Colossians 1:10-12